SOME HUSBAND SUCK BIG TIME

Once again we are back to our Sunday Cyber sermon ,as we all know ,we are not in the business of making friends ,but in the path of rediscovering ourselves,then toward a lovely home that we all should be proud of.

TO GET RESULT READ TO THE LAST LETTER PLS ..

Men are head of house hold but some men are headless zombies who cannot head self  ,talkless of heading a house hold.

BEING A HUSBAND is not when a man is able to get a woman pergnant,it is not when you pay bride price or do all the traditional rites.

It is when you know the difference between living alone , doing what you want ,having everything when and where you wanted it ,AND when you have another living being with other wants and different idealogy living and sharing your 24 hrs with you ,as 2 IN1 and not as master and slave.

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And you know how to adjust your attitude, your needs, yours wants and when to act the Boss and when to take a second look at things and let go of those things that will spark a FAMILY RAGING FIRE.

If you do not have that UPGRADE to know that getting married is not TEA AND BUTTER ,then you are a mistake to MENS world and therefore less qualified to be called a HUSBAND.

Some are not matured in mind to take responsibility of leading a home,they get married because thier mummy wanted them to marry,get wedded because his parents want him to, and make babies because that is what will make his family happy.If you see that Man ,tell him that Mazi Odera said "He sucks",marriage is not a conduit to give favor to loved ones,it is a height a man must attain from mind and maturity.

Listen and listen good,if you cannot feed your family ,if you cannot take care of your pregnant wife and baby ,then do not marry and if accidentally you do ,do not make babies.Do not marry to please your mother or father ,sister ,brother or even your girl friend that wants you to get married to her asap,because when the chips are down ,all the above will be standing by the side and watch you fumble and womble like Nigerian presidency.

Some men think that what it takes to be a HUSBAND is to have a HUGE ERECTION,NO NO NO ,it takes that to be a Man but to be a Husband ,it takes commitment.Even boys of this days can take Viagra and over take will overtake over take !!!.

Let,s see if you have been doing your Husbandry job ..

[1] When was the last time you take time out to play with your family ?.

i mean real play ,like have interest on the type of game your kids play and try it out with them.

Sneak behind your wife in the kitchen and cause her to add too much salt in the soup,all in the name of  tapping current.

[2] Have you  try taking your family to a weekend outing ?,i am sure you work on weekends but which one is more important ,your weekend duties or to take out  once or twice a month and pack your family off to weekend in some cool place.That is how to re-discover your family,that way you can abandon all the weekends ceremony and cerebrate with your own family.If you try that ,you will see that there are lots of unseen  joy that will manifest in your wife,kids and your very self.

[3] Have you shared a night prayer with your family ? or you always come back home reeking of alchohol ,and you careless if kids are well or worn out .

[4] If you must travel from one wedding to the next ,from one Convention to another and from one ceremony to another,then travel with your sense.Always come back before Children hit bed.

If you are to spend the night in Hotel ,do not drink yourself to stupor ,because once you are drunk ,you become excited and once excited your Nadike ogbogu become electrifying and unbending, and once it is electrifying ,you will be looking for DEEP FREEZER to cool it inside, and in such situation ,you do not discriminate between SINGLE AND MARRIED LADIES.

Some men are walking time bomb ,they live in frustration but only manifest it at home ,a little thing from the wife ,he will pounce on her the same way Americans pounce on any nation that refused to sale them oil at american give away rate.If that kind of man thinks he wants to vent out his frustration on human ,it is better ,he approach any of the MOTORCYCLE GANG and kick down thier BIKE.Or drag him to igboevent@yahoogroups.com to come and kick asses of real igbomen.They should not be local champions that triumph on thier wife,you see that kind of shit headed men ,when they see another woman outside he will spread his heart and beg the girl to walk on it with HIGH HEEL SPIKE SHOES and the man will be smiling like a december goat.   

Married men,some of us are hot tempered when they get home ,that is when they become Ezeonye agwanam ,if the wife try to chat with him ,he will turn to Tiger and if the woman try one more time to have a family chit chat ,he will pounce on her and beat the living daylight out of her.If you know that kind of man ,ask him to bring his frustration to IGBO FORUM ,so that he will practise his iwe oku on Mazi Odera .Such men are coward of the second generation ,because they cannot face a fellow man outside his home to vent off his anger.And,i love to kick the behind of such men .

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WHEN YOU gain respect of your family ,the children will miss you when you come back late,and they worry about your safety.

Your wife will stay up waiting for you,not when you always look for one WAKE keeping to attend or Association meetings and from work to meeting ,when you get home ,you walk in like a stranger and no smiles to welcome you home.That way you think you are head of the family ,no no no ,you are a visitor to your own house and if you drop dead ,no body will mis you.

When you gain respect of your family ,your kids will become your friend and your wife will be your GIRL FRIEND and Wifey and you will prance about as KING .

But when you suck ,your family will not mind if you are Home or away and the more you stay away the happier they are ,then look at the mirror in your toilet and scream ... I SUCK !!!!

Fellow men,Listen and listen good there is no bad wife ,God said he who finds a wife ,finds a good thing.So when you went out and find a wife ,you are not blind.Do not tell me that she changed ,because you can change her back if you are THE MAN.If you know what made you marry her in the first place ,that thing is not lost but abandoned ,so try and re-locate it and you will have a brand new wife.

When next you have that feeling to slap your wife ,take this advise from me ...just picture her naked the first day two of mated ,then think of the reason why you did not slap her that first day but DID THE OTHER THING ,that alone will help you to cool off.If you beat her up once ,your value has reduced .

Maybe you did not notice that Women are like Radio with so many stations ,if you tune her up to Hip hop station ,she will become noisy ,do not brake the Radio ,justy change to another station.

If you keep tuning and turning the knob, you will get a station that you like and keep the dial at that station.

FINALLY :Take out time to bless your family ,even if you are not a Christian ,you can bless your children ,your wife.

Tell them that they are blessed from the bottom of your heart.

Some men use thier mouth to curse thier own children and wife ,and tommorrow you will want them to become somebody ?.

When you say to your child "you this useless and stupid son/daughter" ,and you will like that child to become useful later in life ?.Please know that the power of life and death lies with the tongue.

If you have cursed your chidlren and or your wife ,kindly call them to a good dinner ,home made or dinning outside and after a good dinner ,tell them that "if there is any bad word or curse you,ve placed on them,knowingly,jokingly or otherwise ,that you are taking it back.That you are blessing them and blessing they shall be all the days of thier life".

Try and bless your family once in a day or while ,it is what makes you a good father and with that i "REST MY CASE".

By MAZI ODERA

mazi.odera@yahoo.com